When someone makes a decision to achieve an extraordinary goal, they are working on becoming a different person. An extraordinary goal increases confidence, develop a competence, and boost their level of motivation. Its an exciting time when you focus your attention towards something you really want. Its a great day when you decide to change your life!
The greatest pleasure in life is doing what people say you cannot do. They say it in a variety of ways. Sometimes the messages are subtle by offering distractions. Some good and some not so good. They also just come out and say you cannot do it. This is a very tough conversation because the message many times comes from someone you love and trust.
If you really want to acheive something extraordinary, you need to manage your mindset. Surround yourself with people and things that keep you focused. A friend should support you and help you stay on track. Stay away from those who offer distractions or provide negative feedback. This is important! If they cannot see this, then it might be time to find a new friend. Manage your workspace and your home settings too so that you are reminded of your goal and your commitment.
The best advice I can give you to achieve your goal is to stay focused. This would mean eliminating all obstacles and distractions. Try associating with more positive people, who add to your life and stay away from those who bring you down. Feed you mind with good news and positive information that will keep your spirits up and on track. Also, control the language you use, especially the way in which you describe yourself. You will find it easier to succeed. Good luck. I know you can do it.
Sunday, March 25, 2012
Saturday, March 17, 2012
HAVE YOU HAD THE TALK YET?
It goes without saying that the people I have known all my life are my parents. As I write this, I am a 52 year old with two parents who are both in their seventies. My mom recently had a bout with cancer and it made me start to think that my mom will someday not be with us. Dad's time will come too. Its an inevitable situation that we all have to deal with at some point in life.
A good friend shared with me a book summary called "The Parent Care Conversation." by Dan Taylor. The book summary covers six strategies for dealing with the emotional and financial challenges of aging parents. This often difficult topic offers a choice of you either being proactive and work with your parents or be reactive when the times comes to deal with their care and passing.
The first step is always the toughest. The parents need to share with you their feelings and wishes about their care and passing. This conversation will hopefully reveal your parents vision of their care and passing, their financial needs and wants, and their wishes for the property and possessions they have at the time of their death. The talk should also include what professional care they might want or need at any point in the process.
Dan Taylor outlines his CARE system which stands for challenges, alternatives, resources, and experience. Its a process of listening and asking the right questions so you can understand and articulate their wishes. From there, you can explore the alternatives and resources available to you to hopefully provide the experience our parents would like to have.
I highly recommend you read this book. Its a great way in getting you to start the talk with your parents. Being proactive is a far better approach than being reactive when emotions are running high. Hopefully, with open communication you will be the needed advocate for your parents when they need it the most.
A good friend shared with me a book summary called "The Parent Care Conversation." by Dan Taylor. The book summary covers six strategies for dealing with the emotional and financial challenges of aging parents. This often difficult topic offers a choice of you either being proactive and work with your parents or be reactive when the times comes to deal with their care and passing.
The first step is always the toughest. The parents need to share with you their feelings and wishes about their care and passing. This conversation will hopefully reveal your parents vision of their care and passing, their financial needs and wants, and their wishes for the property and possessions they have at the time of their death. The talk should also include what professional care they might want or need at any point in the process.
Dan Taylor outlines his CARE system which stands for challenges, alternatives, resources, and experience. Its a process of listening and asking the right questions so you can understand and articulate their wishes. From there, you can explore the alternatives and resources available to you to hopefully provide the experience our parents would like to have.
I highly recommend you read this book. Its a great way in getting you to start the talk with your parents. Being proactive is a far better approach than being reactive when emotions are running high. Hopefully, with open communication you will be the needed advocate for your parents when they need it the most.
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